My wife's problematic siblings?
My wife is out of town visiting family, and she has two younger sisters who are living in a house owned by their grandmother.
Their grandmother will likely be dead within 6 months because she is gravely ill, and is in a nursing home. Needless to say, they are living in her house 100 percent rent-free and they are TRASHING the house. My wife went to visit them and she said it looks like that show "Hoarders" on TV.
I'm absolutely furious because they are living like ignorant savages and taking advantage of an 87 year old woman and completely trashing her house. Their grandmother has severe Alzheimers and doesn't even recognize them anymore. Her POA is in denial about the seriousness of this situation and is refusing to do anything about it.
So, should I call the department of health and report it, or do I butt out because it isn't any of my business?
Thanks for your opinions!
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You should leave any decision about the house and the situation to your wife, after all it's her sisters, and grandmother. It could really backfire on you for meddling in "family" business.
How sad. Who gave them permission to live there? Something should be done. You seem to be the only one who cares. I would hate to see you but out, for that reason. Yes call the department of health. Stay on the POA. Take pictures and show him how they are trashing the place. Raise enough h*** till somebody will listen. Make them come up with proof that they can live there, and if they can't, turn them in for trespassing. You are a compasionate person. Hope you can get some help getting those idiots out of there.
I think it is worth saving the house. You should petition the courts to make your wife the POA because the other kids are taking advantage.
It would be wise to talk to your wife about this as well, as it is her mother. Have the wife talk to her sisters, and see if they can show some respect. If they cannot, then have your wife, or yourself call the health department. It is the right thing to do, even if it is a hard thing to do.
wow, this is a tough one.. if it were an elderly neighbor of yours and you knew this was going on i would totally tell you to call them and report it, but being that it is your wife's sisters, oh boy... i think what i would do is have a serious talk with my wife about it, face to face.. you both have an obligation to this poor old lady to make sure that she is safe and that she is not living in unsanitary conditions. if it were me, i wouldn't do it on my own, but i would encourage your wife that it is what would be best for her grandmother.. i know that she loves her sisters, but this is not right.
In a marriage, a rule of thumb that is wise to follow is this: Your family ... you handle it. Her family ... she handles it. There are exceptions, of course, but for most situations, this is the best course of action.
I would stay out of it, unless someone directly involved asks you your opinion. THEN, feel free to let fly your thoughts and feelings (which I think are justified). Until such a time, it's better to let her handle it.
Best of luck to you
LOL i'm a woman, yet i might sense soooooo pissed. a million) i will confront her approximately it and if that doesn't artwork out, 2) i gets my acquaintances or kin (or regardless of) to cuss/insult her and don't something... and if it nonetheless won't artwork out, i might ditch her.
speaking to your wife about it. i'd say report it.. but honestly you and her need to make this happen together not just you. thats why she is your wife and your the husband you work as a team.
Have your wife call someone.
Or else, she might get mad at you for interfering.
Peace.
report it.