Stepdad problem?
I am 24 years old am going to be married in April to my wonderful boyfriend. My only problem is my stepdad,Stan.
My mom married him when I was 9 and he has basically been my dad since then.My biological dad only stopped by every now and then the whole time I was growing up and all he did was make me feel bad about myself,while Stan really took time to raise me right and give me the love and confidence most kids need.Anyway my stepdad was diagnosed with ALS (Lou Gehrig's disease) about a year ago and now he can't walk and is basically paralyzed.I know he is dying and it kills me.My problem is that in order to go to the wedding he'll need to be wheeled in on a hospital bed and he doesn't want to do that.He says the ventilator and all the equipment would draw all eyes to him,and that I need to be the center of attention,that it's my day.I so want him to be there to see me, and it really hurts me that he is staying home.Do you think I am being selfish wanting him there?
Update:My real dad never paid a dime in child support and I would never let him be at my wedding.Way too much abuse when I was little.
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If he really doesn't want to go, how about a video hook-up where he will be able to watch from home? Won't cost very much and you could even have the video to/from the wedding.
No! You are not selfish when the only Dad who was with you as you were growing up, is sick. I, Applaud you for your Love and consideration to him, I wish there were a lot of Girls like you around.
If you really want your Dad in your Wedding, find out where you can make arrangements for him to be there, because you do not know how long he is going to be with you all.
I hope that all comes out fine, and that you will have a beautiful Wedding. Good Luck, in your coming future.
Love can be selfish, you know? Look, i think he is your DAD not your step dad, looks like again, he is thinking of you before him. He know it's your day, and he doesn't want to draw eyes to him.
Do this, find a friend who can hook up a camera somewhere near the altar. Hook him up via pc and you can have him watch and be on a monitor. Not as good as the real thing, but still....
If he is at home, get your reverend/priest/father to marry you at home with your step DAD present. Give him that joy. After all he did bring you up. There certainly is your concern about him. I reckon that will give him gratitude.
Your biological "dad" can go to the reception if you want him to be there.
Film the reception, mainly the formal stuff and give it to him as a gift afterwards.
Good Luck!
a million. Hes no longer your father you do no longer want his consent to pass buying on your man or woman- only pass to the mall via your self 2. Its creepy that an person feels the could desire to be interior the dressing room with a minor on an identical time as shes undressing- there is not any want for him to be there era! 3. returned to show a million- Hes no longer your father, subsequently he doesnt get to show you how to comprehend the way you could dress somewhat, positioned him in his place!
You both have your points. But like others have said. Live on camera is the way to go. He will be there for you on your day.....And he will not feel alone, since he'll be with you as well.
I do not think that you are selfish. I would tell him that it will still be your day and his being there will make it better. If he still says no make sure it is video taped and that he gets to see it.
I don't think you're being selfish at all. I really believe that you need to let him know how important this is to you.
no that really sweet. how about a wedding at his bed side with just the closest people there. and then a bigger wedding.. afterward./
Your real dad still got to pay child support didnt he ? Why dont you have him walk you down the aisle, he deserves it.