Depressed?
Hey guys. My name is Caroline and I'm thirteen years old, and I am feeling extremely depressed. I have always been "popular" at school, and really good at talking to people and making friends, but this year, it just seems like everything is falling apart. I have always admired my mom, and it seems like the person who I thought she was all these years is really a completely different person. I feel like she is making less and less of an effort with me. Since I'm entering the teenage years and all, I want to have a good relationship with my mom, but she doesn't seem to see that she's drifting away from me while I'm trying to piece our fragile relationship back together everytime she forgets an important date or forgets to pick me up from school. I've tried talking to her about it, but everytime she blows up at me and tells me how lucky I am to have a mother like her. On a social level, this year, I'm crashing down. None of my friends are in my classes and, even though I'm trying harder
Update:than ever before to make new friends, no one really seems to care. It hurts, especially since having friends has never really been an issue before. Grade-wise, this year is a big one as it determines what high school I'm going to go to, and if I want to get into one of the really good prep schools, I have to have flawless grades. Unfortunately, I can't seem to get myself motivated because of everything else that is happening in my life. I fear getting really bad grades, since I have always been a really good student. Somedays, I just feel like life isn't worth living anymore. There's really nothing to look forward to. I'm not thinking of suicide, but how can I get my life back on track?
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breath. turn on ur iPod or radio. play ur favorite song ever. lay back on ur bed and then watch ur fave show. (do this of course when homework is finished) study stuff so ur grades won't slip. ask a teacher. hang out with friends. IM. Email. talk on the phone. make some new friends. ask ur mom how her day was. tell her a funny story about school. pack ur favorite lunch. write in a journal. go on clubpenguin. play mindless computer games. draw. jump up and down. eat ice cream. drink lots of water. breath.
i really hope all of that helped!!! good luck to u and here is a star.
Unfortunately, I have no magical answer for you. But, I can say that when I was your age, I went through the same kinds of things. Depression is not an easy thing. All I can tell you is that you have to wake up everyday and make the choice to be a strong woman. You have to decide that you only have one life and you want to make the most of it. I can only imagine what things must be like with you mom - but that is how things were with my dad. When I was growing up, he was an alcholic and totally not dependable. It was hard, but over the years, I have managed to accept my dad for who he is (and luckily he stopped drinking) and now we have a great relationship. Don't give up on your mom, and remember that she is only human and unfortunately not perfect. There is only so much you can do.
Making friends can be hard, but it is still early in the year. Keep doing your best, and in a few more weeks, you are going to find that you are connecting with people. Good luck, and keep your head up...
Talk to your school counselor or pastor. Your mom may also be having some problems, so keep trying, but remember, any kind of relationship goes through rough patches. Understand that its not your fault if she's growing distant. Try making new friends in your classes or join a group or church to make friends. It's okay to not be popular, but friends are worth something. Try not to stress about your life. Take things one day at a time. You'll get through it.
Okay listen up, take a deep breath and look outside at nature REALIZE there is far more to this world then school, there's oppurtunities, careers that can change the lives of others, anything is possible yet so many never realize it.
forget what others think dream of a rich, happy future and work towards it, its a long road but its possible.
I feel for you, sister!
Talk to a school counselor. If you feel it'll kill your social life to do that, go to school early or stay after to talk to them.
What your mom doesn't understand it that when a teenager wants a good relationship with their family, that needs to be adressed immediately. It's easy to lose a teenager. (Relationship-wise.)