Jealousy or self-esteem problem?
There an individual I never wanted to get involved with and hated every time I had to spend time with after the first time. I felt I had to get involved with this individual for several reasons.
Can't mention here. But what has me curious is he's making the same moves on another individual and it's affecting me. The other individual doesn't pose a physical or attracted problem for me. However, I find myself wanting to warn the other individual or turn the person in I hate so much.
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True Self-ishness always leads to joy, because it is motivated always by
the desire to feel as good as possible. It is only when we are Self-ish
enough to be, do and act in accordance with our desires (not someone
else’s) that it is possible to stay balanced. Energetically speaking, a
desire is a rush of life force energy, a connection to the divine inner
self, which can never result in actions that are harmful. It is only
when true desires are blocked that they become twisted and ugly. This
statement goes against the common wisdom that human nature is greedy,
violent and primitive. Human nature is precisely the opposite: we are
born knowing ourselves as powerful, eternal, spiritual beings. Petty,
competitive, churlish and violent behavior must be
overcome with suitable practice. Observe your family, friends
and coworkers. Almost all of them are good people, trying to do the best
they can. It would simply not be possible to build a sophisticated
society if human nature was so base. All successful societies are based
upon cooperation, not competition. Competition works not because it is
adversarial, but because it inspires teamwork. Ask two angry guys to get
something constructive done, it is not going to happen. All
success is based upon cooperation. That is because we live in an
attraction based universe.
These natural impulses are supposed to be dangerous because they stem
from a primitive survival instinct. But human being has a bette mind
than animals. Just look around at the mess the world is in! But that is
a delusional assertion, a denial of the basic nature of consciousness
itself. The natural impulses of human nature stem from a connection to
life force, and it is resistance to this divine impulse which causes the
selfish behavior people object to.
If you observe people you will quickly see that those persons who are
most alive are full of desire, and those who look lifeless have little
or no desire. Desire = life force. Shut off desire = selfish behavior.
It's ironic that selfish behavior actually results from self-denial.
Human nature is not a primitive, biological instinct based on survival
of the fittest, it’s a pure connection to source energy. It is divine.
It's only when that connection is closed off that selfish behavior is
demonstrated. Every one of your desires is, in its non-resisted state,
joyful and balanced, because that is an inherent property of
consciousness itself. True selfishness is allowance of desire, without
resistance, and results in the impulse to give freely to others. But it
is first necessary to allow that impulse within yourself.
http://kjmaclean.com/Selfishness.html
Your problem is that you've started basing your identity/confidence on the fact that you have a hot girlfriend and that's a really bad idea. No matter how hot a woman is you have to be willing to drop her at any time if she turns into a raging b or decides she likes someone else more. That's the nature of romantic relationships.
There is nothing you can do that wouldn't look like sour grapes. Unless of course the person that is receiving this attention now is in some kind of danger. Just remember "Revenge is mine sayeth the lord, " so if it is jealousy on your part, just let things be and get on with your life.
I feel that the best thing to do in that situation is that if you wait too long you ll miss the opportune moment to snag your little piece of what ever it is that you have the chance to cherish dude do not pass it up> may be the last chance
I wouldn't do or say anything under these very unusual circumstances. However, I think you should find some new friends, my dear.
if its bad...tell her.
if its shallow, high school stuff...move on, shell figure it out.