self esteem problem?
i am 14, 5'5 and 120 pounds with 20% body fat. now yes i know that i ma not overweight at all but muscle weighs more then fat and i have no muscle. i used to ski race but stopped the winter that my parents divorced 4 years ago and lost muscle mass. i have a flabby stomach that i cant stand and i just hate it. even my sister calls me fat( she is 17, my height, and 110 pounds) i have also been called fat by like 3 other people. i have also been told that i stuff my bra (not true) because i have large breasts.
i am going to mexico for spring break with my family and i really dont like the way that i look in a swim suit. i want to work out but i always have about 2-3 hours of homework every night so i can never find the time.
please someone please tell me how to feel good about my self. i feel like crap and it is not very fun.
thanks for any help it might get me to stop crying alone.
Update:i want tips on how to feel good. so good luck isnt helping at all
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No one is perfect
It's pretty common for people to find flaws in themselves
you might be heavier then you like but you are not trully obese.
Eat less move more...exercise and diet are the key to a trim figure
Work on yourself but don't expect miracals overnight. Be happy with your positive qualities
when you go to spring break you will see taht there are many people who are more fit than you but you will see a lot of porkers out there. Recognize taht you are niether extreme
take comfort in the fact that you will not always look the way you do now. Enjoy yourself and don't worry about what a lot of people in Mexico think.
Many people are unhappy because tehy never achieve positive body image. I suggest you just get over it if you can. Concentrate on being happy and healthy. With a little exercise you could be in fighting weight by teh end of summer
good luck...feel better
I wish I was 5'5 and 120 pounds, but I'm not and I accept it. If you want to get into shape fast, forget about quick fix diets that won't work. Start running. Get a good sports bra and some running sneakers that are a size larger than what you normally wear and go out and run. Not only will it keep you fit and trim, but will will make you "feel" better. I seriously was never happier than when I would go out for my morning jogs 3-4 times a week. Make it a part of your routine. Physically and mentally you will feel like a million bucks!
You are TINY!! Don't worry about losing weight, hunny! You're only 14! If you want to feel good about yourself, commit to jogging at least 10 or 20 minutes a day. When you exercise, your brain releases hormones called endorphins. Endorphins give you a natural high feeling. You will feel great after exercising. Do it in the morning if you can to start your day in a positive mood. If you want to tone your tummy up, just due crunches. Don't obsesse over having a perfect body. Just stay healthy. Your attitude with others make you even prettier. Make sure you keep positive or else you will feel bad, no matter how skinny you can get. Good luck!
(((hugs))) I think that we worry way to much about these things. I don't think that you are fat by any means and I think that you really do need to work on self esteem. I know how hard it can be when you feel bad about yourself. I have been there. You have to tell yourself that you are the best person that you can be and it is more important how you feel about yourself. I know that time is a problem for you and maybe you could do some tone up or weight training just to firm up your muscles a little bit. It really does help. I found a link for you that gives some great tips on weights. Please know that you are a great person and try not to be so hard on yourself. Take care.
first off I hate bush too he sucks. secondly do you think your fat?? If not then why do you care what other people think f you just be who you are and don't let anyone tell YOU who YOU are. Also you should stop trying to find an excuse for not working out. It's because your depressed you feel bad and it's hard to find the energy and the motivation to get up and go. I know the feeling I'm living it today as we speak too. So your just gonna have to do it. You know. just resolve to change yourself and I think the rest will come with age. You're young and a little naive the people you know now are not always going to be the people you associate with. so get new friends hang out with people that bring you up not put you down and cheer up girl you'll be fine.
self esteem is a huge issue for girls your age; this response also goes for the other girl who wrote about her probelms and is 5'9'' 140.
you are not alone, even those girls your age who appear confident are struggeling with body image issues, as it is a part of developing your own identity. I promise that it will pass!!
in the mean time, there are several things that you can do to help increase your self esteem. I undertsand that you do not have very much time to engage in exercise activities, but exercise isnt always about losing weight...even brief activities can help increase your enorphins and boost your mood and confidence...find an exercise you like, and find time to do every morning when you wake up or every night when you go to bed...for instance, just do 50 crunches on the floor when you get out of bed in the morning...this is only takes a minute, and it will help a lot....if you dont like sit ups, pick something of your choice, anything...
another good idea, that you can do by yourself or with a group of friends who have the same feelings about their own bodies...is to get together with them (or even just one friend) and write a compliment to the other person on an index card...for instance if you think your friend "jen" has beautiful eyes then write that to her, and she can compliment you
put this in a place where you can see it multiple times a day..such as where you keep your toothbrush or on your mirror, or by a light switch. every time you see the card, read it and then try to think about one thing that you like about yourself
lastly, DO NOT stress about your body fat. a girl has to have 13% body fat to even have a period, and you are at healthy weight.
enjoy your vacation
PS: To the other people who are answering this... SHE IS ASKING HOW TO IMPROVE HER SELF ESTEEM NOT HOW TO LOSE WEIGHT!! which she doesnt even need to do! replying and telling that she will seeporkers at the beach, etc is only reinforcing her notions that people are overly observant of her body...this is not about her body, its about feeling good about herself
Come on now, there are so many girls who would love to have only 20% body fat (me included). The people calling you fat are either blind, crazy or both.
You are going to go on holiday and you are going to look great in that swimsuit. No negative self talk, just keep telling yourself that you are beautiful.
Take care : )
Dont worry about it sweety.
everybody is different and everybody weighs different. a persons weight doesnt determine how fat they are. even if you say you dont have much muscle mass, i'm sure you look great. if youre really worried about your stomach than i'm sure you could find time to do 100 situps morning at night everyday.us it will have you looking great.
God, I feel bad for you...I'm 5'9 and 140 lbs. and i have been called fat by many people...which is crazy because i am so not fat!!! god my sister would call me rude names like fat fuq, fatas*, fat ***** i have been through so damn much...anyway, i know how it feels to cry alone in a room with no one to turn to...crying silent tears no one can hear...it hurts me to hear that you are sad because you are not fat at all...
try finding a swim suit that is specifically designed to your body type.
http://www.girlynation.com/style_swimsuitforyourbo...
Also, a tan always makes me feel thinner and more toned. Maybe do the fake bake to get a base tan?