1. don't allow your self to be brainwashed with other people's opinions on you! (where do silly opioins ever get you anyway?)
2. you might not know this, but 9 times out of 10, people with low self esteem are the ones with the biggest ego! low self esteem is caused when you feel offended by what someone says or thinks about you... this hurts YOUR EGO. you can decrease the size of your ego by doing for others, and not worrying about yourself so much
3. surrond yourself with people who think highly of you and themselves.
Well... purchasing things to make you "feel" better isnt a good idea simply because its only a bandaid to the ongoing situation. I have worked for years on my self esteem due to bad relationships, Bi Polar 1 Disorder and other ongoing problems. I have found a great help to come from a book and workbook called 10 days to self esteem. Granted it takes more than ten days, but the work is awesome and the ending result is better. I don't think we ever are able to not work on self esteem issues due to our society and situations we find ourselves in. People in general have this idea that we have to fit in their puzzle a certain way when in reality we are our own puzzle and fit any way we turn. Its really not as easy as it sounds and will be a hard road but I promise you it will be worth it.
trust me, i have gone through a ton of stuff that completely crumbles my self esteem. ok, first, try your hardest to be optimistic, for example: if you didnt like roller coasters but you had to go to an amusement park with bigs rides, dont think "i hate rollercoasters, im scared," try to think "i can do this. i just need to start small, if i go on something, someone will be proud and happy for me." it sounds dumb, but honestly, the way you feel about tings around effects the way you feel inside. also, everyday when you wake up try to think of the best thing that is going to happen during that day. once you have woken up say for example, "im going to see so-and-so today" or even on a day with nothing you could think "i have a day all for myself". another thing to raise your self-esteem is to stay active. go running or lift little 3 pound weights. you will have hormones released that are good for you and your brain and you are getting more physically fit. just with every word you say, as hard as it may be, think of the positives.
Join some clubs or organizations. Volunteer organizations are great for helping you build self esteem while improving the community and making new friends.
Self-esteem is how you regard yourself, increasing it should be by doing good things, and remember yourself that you did them. It's keeping track of your little success which will lead you to the whole success, and your self-esteem will go up.
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1. don't allow your self to be brainwashed with other people's opinions on you! (where do silly opioins ever get you anyway?)
2. you might not know this, but 9 times out of 10, people with low self esteem are the ones with the biggest ego! low self esteem is caused when you feel offended by what someone says or thinks about you... this hurts YOUR EGO. you can decrease the size of your ego by doing for others, and not worrying about yourself so much
3. surrond yourself with people who think highly of you and themselves.
4. confide in yourself! your a smart girl!
Well... purchasing things to make you "feel" better isnt a good idea simply because its only a bandaid to the ongoing situation. I have worked for years on my self esteem due to bad relationships, Bi Polar 1 Disorder and other ongoing problems. I have found a great help to come from a book and workbook called 10 days to self esteem. Granted it takes more than ten days, but the work is awesome and the ending result is better. I don't think we ever are able to not work on self esteem issues due to our society and situations we find ourselves in. People in general have this idea that we have to fit in their puzzle a certain way when in reality we are our own puzzle and fit any way we turn. Its really not as easy as it sounds and will be a hard road but I promise you it will be worth it.
trust me, i have gone through a ton of stuff that completely crumbles my self esteem. ok, first, try your hardest to be optimistic, for example: if you didnt like roller coasters but you had to go to an amusement park with bigs rides, dont think "i hate rollercoasters, im scared," try to think "i can do this. i just need to start small, if i go on something, someone will be proud and happy for me." it sounds dumb, but honestly, the way you feel about tings around effects the way you feel inside. also, everyday when you wake up try to think of the best thing that is going to happen during that day. once you have woken up say for example, "im going to see so-and-so today" or even on a day with nothing you could think "i have a day all for myself". another thing to raise your self-esteem is to stay active. go running or lift little 3 pound weights. you will have hormones released that are good for you and your brain and you are getting more physically fit. just with every word you say, as hard as it may be, think of the positives.
Join some clubs or organizations. Volunteer organizations are great for helping you build self esteem while improving the community and making new friends.
Self-esteem is how you regard yourself, increasing it should be by doing good things, and remember yourself that you did them. It's keeping track of your little success which will lead you to the whole success, and your self-esteem will go up.
get some new clothes, new shoes and stuff! Simple then you'll be okay. Just make a list of all the great things about you!
here are a few starters:
I am pretty.
I am smart.
I have a lot of friends.
Just make a list and write it down and review it when you wake up in the morning and before bed just keep adding to the list! you will feel great!
ipdolady is pretty insightful!! I think I have low self esteem when it is likely more about what I THINK people are thinking about me.
Let your guard down, relax, and your self esteem will escalate to levels you can't even dream about!!