how can i raise my really low self esteem?
i have really bad low self esteem. i am a 15 year old teenager and a junior in high school. i have really bad low self esteem. i don't have many friends and get picked on alot. i am trying ti change this. i have always been like that but i really need to change it starting now. whenever im around other people i get really shy. its awful. ill be in a circle everyone is talking joking laughing and it is so awkward because i am the only one who is being quiet as hell. if anyone reads this all the way through and can help me it would be the best ever. thanks sooo much.
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1st of all, maybe you think people/parents can talk anyway they see fit each day. Turns out many are abusers. Actually they are not trying to be tough to make you better or help- they are tricking you. This goes for people at school as well. Words are abuse also.
There are many types of abusive people/parents. Some ignore you. Some hit the bottle. Some hit you. And some run their mouths and put you down. THEY are sick and feel great by being mean, and thats the only reason they do it. They are wrong about everything. The typical abuser is close-minded, self-righteous and was also abused themself. Use defense and read many sites on verbal abuse etc. People tear you down or give irratating advice to build themselves up. They have problems.
Remember- Abuse always involves some deception mixed in.
Abuse causes pain mistaken as mental problems- Cutting, OCD etc. Psychiatrists commit fraud in that all disorders are only emotions. For chemical imbalances NO test exists. You dont have what shrinks say you have. Dont tell abusers about any so called disorders. They will only drug you.
Jesus name and forgiving others who are wrong is important along with avoiding them.
Call or I can- Child Protective Services- Transitional housing to age 21- tell your teacher. Dont tell your parents they wont listen.
Learn the truth, forgive, and Get Away from them. Read many many sites under "emotional abuse" and "dealing with bullies".
I have some questions for you if want to talk about it.
http://www.googobits.com/articles/2446-inside-the-...
Believe in yourself. Life is beautiful after all. You are not alone. Sometimes there will be a stone on the road that make us fall and feel down, but what make us Champions is that if we believe in ourselves then we will have the strength to get up and move on in life. I was bullied also when I was at school and believe me I know it is not fun, but there are many things in life that you can enjoy doing that will keep your mind off healthy, doing sports for example, you can perfectly start off this one by yourself, if one of your friends comes along great! This one will keep you off of drugs or bad habits.
Remember, you can perfectly be the inspiration of many people based of this challenge that you're going through right now. But you have to believe in yourself, first! Don't ever give up.
One of the most beautiful things that I have learned in life is that what it makes us so unique is that we are different. We are one star on the big sky. I hope that this one helps! I leave you with one inspirational reading that I found on the Internet the other day: Desiderata. Peace Out
Desiderata
Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain or bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs;
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
it is as perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful.
Strive to be happy.
Congratulations on taking control of your self esteem. It will take time, but you can do it.
Large groups are harder to get involved with. Try to find smaller groups. Try to find common activities or a club. Volunteer somewhere. If you're helping someone else, it takes the focus off of you and you can relax and find out all the things you are good at.