do i seem DESPREATE & LONELY?
me and my ex were madly in love. after a fight we broke up he got w/ someone and had a kid w/ her. so i moved on. i cussed him out and didnt look back. apparantly, hes been harboring feelings for me the past 4 years and i woudnt give him the time of day before. UNTIL RECENTLY i got divorced & now am preg and the babies dad dumped me. do u think it appears obvoius to him that i am desprate and maybe lonely bcuz im about to have a kid on my own? U know, now that im suddenly giving him the tiem of day and before i woudnt give him another chance???
Update:well actually i really want cuase i never stopped loving him, but im afraid he will see it as me being desprate and lonely.
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You poor thing, you are going through so much right now. Of course you feel lonely and desperate! Is there anything worse than being alone when you are in such a vulnerable state? I don't think so. It's natural to want to reach out to people, and it probably gave you a needed ego boost to learn that he never got over you. Am I right? Now what you need to ask yourself is what are the benefits of getting back together with this man? Is he the type of man you want around your new baby? If the answer is yes, then go for it, but if not, stay friends, and let it go at that.
Yes: You seem desperate and lonely because you are in a desperate state; there is no room for another man right now. Back off, and allow yourself time to focus on your child (who needs it). Try being your own friend, the type who will never let YOU down. He has had his time, so now it's all about you. Don't just be willing to let someone back into your life because it's convenient for them. From what you have said, there were at least three guys in your life during a short period of 4 years. Remember that pregnancy is a nurturing time.
Try to be alone for awhile, especially since oyu are pregnant. You are going through a rough time and having someone that may hurt you more is not what you need right now. Concentrate on your pregnancy and the newborn when the baby is born and then date someone, that way they will see how it will be dating someone with a baby. If he starts dating you when you are pregnant it might be fine and all but once the baby is born it might be shocking to him how difficult it is and how little time you will have for him since you have ot take care of the baby.
Yes, I think you will seem desperate and lonely to him and that might be how you actually feel. You are in a fragile state don't complicate things right now.
You might be lonely, after all, you are having a child on your own and that is a very scary thing. Embarking in something new and with so much responsibility can make you feel somewhat vulnerable and afraid and you are trying to reach out to something that is familiar to you. Maybe, without thinking about it, you want a father in your child's life, but now, you are living for two and think about how your actions are not going to only affect you, but the life that you are carrying.
Go to your family and close friends and talk to them about how you are feeling and perhaps, they can bring a different outlook in this situation. Best of luck to you.
Well you shouldn't use him because nobody else is there right now. That isn't fair at all. Just be his friend. You have another mans seed in your body right now, so you really start back seeing any one especially in that way until you give birth at least.
It does seem suspect on your part, so just don't lie to yourself to fill that void that's missing.
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Hmmm I think you are going to trap him so you will have support for your new baby . Hes probably white trash though and will take you back and the leave and go have a baby with another woman and so on and so on !
Ouch, don't go there
If you want him just because you're alone ... no one deserves that, it's deseption. Wait and find someone you LOVE. I know it can't be easy right now, but still ... my experience is that in the long run it's better to be alone than with someone you don't love.
No he may look at it as now that you are single, it is a more appropriate time to pursue you, I may also be a buzz for him, to have an opportunity to help someone he cares deeply for. Good luck.
well dont make it look so obvious..try talking about handling parenting..if your not in the same town..just call and say you were just going through photos or something to get the conversations flowing again..time will tell if your still right for eachother..good luck