do i have "daddy issues"?
So i have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years and he has everything i look for in a guy; plus he is loyal and treats me like a "queen". You would think that I am happy...but I'm not, i can't seem to trust him..even though he has never cheated nor have come close to cheating on me.
My boyfriend is from the same country as my parents.
My dad has cheated on my mom a couple of times and my brother is the kind of guy who will leave a girl for a better looking one.
Eeverytime I look at my boyfriend, i wonder if he's going to cheat on me, I feel scared and I give him attitude. I start accussing him of things just to see if he has done something; i feel like sooner or later he's going to be like my dad.
I know this is long, but i really want to know if my trust issues come from my dad.
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I think you do. You never grew up in a household where loyalty wasn't put on a throne. You need to explain to your boyfriend that you do have trust issues because of your day, but you have to try and trust him. If you love him, you'll learn how. It's hard. Extremely hard to trust a person, and it's a slow process, but if you are both working towards that goal, it can be completed. Just tell him your sorry for yelling at him and explain why you do. You have to put your all into trying to fix this, or honestly? You'll never have a good relationship with a guy. Never. Good luck.
I know it's hard to trust people at times, especially if you have seen things happen so many times before and you don't want it to happen to you, but you have to learn to trust him until he gives you a reason not to. And that doesn't mean to go looking for a reason not to trust him. Your boyfriend is not your family, which means he probably won't do the same things that yours has done. I hope that you can allow your boyfriend to be there for you, he seems like a nice guy. Allow yourself to love and to not worry, and things will get better.
Best of Luck!
You have "trust" issues. You may have trust issues because of the way your dad treated your mom but it's not the same thing as "daddy" issues. "Daddy" issues are when a young woman dates older men because she subconsciously sees them as substitutes for her dad.
That being said, if you don't trust your boyfriend, there may be something to it. "Trust your gut".
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consider counseling or couples counseling