I am going to take this question as though you are asking how to raise a boy to grow up to be a proper man. Well, it really depends on what culture you are in, as each culture had different ideas on what a man is. But, in my opinion if you simply allow the child to be who he truly is he will figure it out. Even if he doesn't have a male role model there are a lot of surrogate role models to draw upon. There is also Big Brother/Big Sister of America, the Boy Scouts of America, and other good groups including churches where a boy can find good solid role models to guide him.
Basically, just allow the child to be his true self and don't attempt to break his spirit by using too strict authoritarian methods. Don't ever strike him or spank him because that teaches violence. Don't shame him because that breaks his spirit and causes him to think something is wrong with "who" he is. Instilling the ability to feel guilt is good because guilt is the precursor of morals.
Check into the Buddhist method of raising children because they honor the Authentic Self of each individual child. You don't have to be in the Buddhist religion to follow its child rearing beliefs. It is the only system so far which gets it right.
treat him like a child, give him an allowance. ground him when hes bad. send him to his room. but get rid of computer!!!! if that doesnt work dump him.
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RN is rite!!!!!!!!
shes a woman tooo, so she'd know!
I am going to take this question as though you are asking how to raise a boy to grow up to be a proper man. Well, it really depends on what culture you are in, as each culture had different ideas on what a man is. But, in my opinion if you simply allow the child to be who he truly is he will figure it out. Even if he doesn't have a male role model there are a lot of surrogate role models to draw upon. There is also Big Brother/Big Sister of America, the Boy Scouts of America, and other good groups including churches where a boy can find good solid role models to guide him.
Basically, just allow the child to be his true self and don't attempt to break his spirit by using too strict authoritarian methods. Don't ever strike him or spank him because that teaches violence. Don't shame him because that breaks his spirit and causes him to think something is wrong with "who" he is. Instilling the ability to feel guilt is good because guilt is the precursor of morals.
Check into the Buddhist method of raising children because they honor the Authentic Self of each individual child. You don't have to be in the Buddhist religion to follow its child rearing beliefs. It is the only system so far which gets it right.
The way you've put this question, I have to agree with RN.
treat him like a child, give him an allowance. ground him when hes bad. send him to his room. but get rid of computer!!!! if that doesnt work dump him.
If you're old enough to worry about it but don't know than I'm not going to tell you . . . . .
Just look at him funny. You'll get him raised... lol
Get him a real woman.
That's his mother's job - if she didn't do the job right, then move on
you don't they are always children
Verdugo:: Then he is really dead.