Always drinks never a date?
So I have been texting with this guy and we have made out and had sex. Im attracted to this guy so its hard to just not hookup...He texted me again to go out for drinks and I dont know if I should go? I am not 100% sure I want to be his drunken hook up and I want to steer this is a more of a relationship direction. I get it we had sex now he feels "why should I buy her dinner" when we've already had sex and I put out for a couple drinks. How can I ensure that we go out in a more of a serious capacity or is it lost, I slutted it up and Im in the drunken hook up zone?
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Well, I'm always for being straightforward. Go out for drinks with him, but don't go home with him. Tell him before you leave that there will be no more sex until you get a real date. You can say it jokingly, but he needs to know you mean it. If he doesn't go for that, then he doesn't care. And trust me, sleeping with someone you have feelings for but who doesn't have feelings for you is one of the worst decisions you can ever make.
When you put out over a couple of drinks, please do not expect something serious afterwards, and definitely not if you've already put out a couple of times, thats how you're letting guys know that you just want casual hook ups and dont need any extra attention or fancy dinners or whatever. If you want to have a chance at even regular dating, dont put out on the first date or after a night of drinking, go out with him at least a few times on interesting dates where you do something creative, see something new, etc, then you can put out if you like him that way.
By having sex with him, you basically made it a hookup. There's no harm in some make outs, as long as you make it clear that nothing more is going to happen. He DEFINITELY sees this as purely a hookup thing now, so I doubt you can change his mind. I'd move on and just make excuses as to why you can't hang out.
well he is a dude and some dude really dont know what womans want until you show or tell them what you want.he might think you like to drinks so he keeps asking you to go for a drink with him...how about when he text you again ask him if he wanna try something new beside drinking like going to eat or watching movie in your house or in his house that way you two will make more connecton of each other feelings .good luck
the guy obviously knows an easy peice of asss when he sees one
ask him for a date or drop hints....but it already looks like he is not that into you and just wants to get you drunk for sex