Is this disrespectful?
My dad got married about 3 months ago. My new stepmother is actually one of my teachers from school. She is awesome and though I am 15 I have started calling her mom. Well my cousin who was visiting heard me call her mom and ran and told her mother (my aunt) who then told my bio mother. So then my bio mom calls me all mad and yelling and crying. She said I was a spoiled brat and other horrible things. I live with my father because my mom refuses to take her meds. I can't visit her but we are allowed to email and talk on the phone but she rarely has time for me. Am I being disrespectful? Is it rude to call my stepmother mom?
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no no no no. She is in fact your mother... well mother in-law. you have a right to be calling her your mother. don't listen to anyone else, if you feel comfortable with calling her that, and your step mother does also then you have rights to do that.
No, you have every right to call her mom! It sounds like your biological mother may be a bit emotional, especially since you said she refuses to take her meds... It sounds like the only person in the wrong is your cousin! Why should she even be up in your personal stuff anyway? And why would it be rude to call your stepmother "mom"? It would make her feel more accepted into your family. Now, your biological mother may be upset because, after all, you are her daughter, but she ought to accept that it's only natural to call your stepmother mom. Try to talk with her over the phone, where she can hear your tone of voice, and get her say in the situation, rather than email, which omits a tone of voice and does not allow "talking" for want of a better word. Keep a steady, logical tone of voice when talk and present decent arguments to get your bio mom to understand
Absolutely not, your bio mother is totally in the wrong here. If you are living with her, then she is your current mother, you call her that. I think its wonderful that you were able to adapt to the family changes and you have a good relationship with her.
Honey you go on calling your step Mother Mum, she seems to have clicked with you, which is wonderful.
Your Bio Mum is very jealous, which is natural in a way, as her ex., has made a happy marriage, and more to the point you are happy too.
Wow. Your bio mom needs to cool it. Of course it's okay to call the step mother mom! Especially if you feel that way about her, which it seems you do.
You are not being disrespectful to your Bio-mom and it is not rude to call your step-mom mom if you and her agree to it. If your bio mom is reacting the way she is it most likely due to her not being on her med and that is causing her not to think properly . and having said all that--it is not your problem to fix enjoy your new step mom
Keep calling her your mom and just ignore the things your bio mom tells you because they are not true
I think it is wonderful that you have a good relationship with your step mother.It is absolutely not disrespectful to call her mom as she seems more motherly than your bio mother. do you mean is it rude to call your stepmom mom at home or school.if she is fine with it and has not objected it is fine to refer to her as that. do you refer to her as mrs. so and so at school?that may be a smart idea.(depending on the situation.)
good luck