How can I raise my self-esteem?
when people are saying to me - "you're ugly" "it would take a lot of drugs for any man to sleep with you!" "you must've fell from the ugly tree" and soooo many more i'd run out of room here!!! I'm 36 and have had to listen to this crap all my life, it makes me feel like I just don't want to live anymore if I always have to hear that i'm ugly and worthless!!!!
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Who you are is not determined by what others perceive you to be.
But, the words of the ignorant masses still sting the ego. I suggest that you sever all relations with anyone who utters the words noted in your question. People who speak that unkindly to another human being do not deserve your attention. Be gone with them.
I would suggest that instead of contemplating suicide, contemplate a new beginning to the next phase of your life. Get a new job, in a new state, in a new neighborhood...
And, relegate the thoughts of those harsh and humiliating words to the background of your consciousness. If you choose to live completely in the present, those words will have no effect on your psyche. They will only be waves bashing the beach while you nonchalantly watch from the boardwalk.
When you look into the mirror every morning, you can see the beauty that exudes from those sparkling eyes, that noble symmetry of your features, that strength of character that somehow peeks through the exterior.
Revel in you and your inner voice, rather than submitting to the ignorance of others.
awww thats sooo sad/mean.. i would say to u that what other people say doesnt matter but the truth is as much as it sucks that it does matter. im sure ur not that ugly, even if u are those people had no rite to say those things and they were probably dealing with their own physical insecurities anways. but ur 36 now and an adult, this is the time u should be enjoying ur life the most. Dont let a few loser's comments from ur past hold u back. Go to a spa or something with a friend, get a new haircut, buy some new clothes and enjoy ur youth!
beuty is a matter of opinion, so just because some people say mean things to you that doesn't mean that you are not preetty. Society has created this image of what "preetty means" and that is just an opinion. if you believe what people say, then thats how you are going to feel, and therefore thats what you are going to show. Do things that make you feel preetty, start getting confidence in yourself, are you inteligent? i bet you are! there has to be something in you that you are good at! GRAB ON TO THAT and feel proud... once you believe that then the inner beuty that you have will show on the outside...