My sister's problem?
In my apartment i pay $50 extra because I have the master bedroom. It has a bathroom in it with a bathtub/shower. Our other bathroom, used by my sister and other roomie,only has a shower. I'm pretty laid back and I have told both of them that i really don't mind if they use my bath if they want to take a bath as long as they ask me if I'm at home, or leave a note on the door if I'm not (that way I don't come home and go to my room and freak out when i suddenly realize someone is in the bathtub) and just take with them what they brought when they are done. My friend is really understanding and respectful about these rules. However my sister isn't. I don't mind that much, being she's my sister but it's not fair to my other roomie and, my sister is crazy, she will take up to 3 baths a day. So it's hectic when I go to my bathroom and she's in there and hasn't asked, never does. But my worst problem is that I will be asleep, even at 1 in the morning, and wake up to the water running.
Update:This is a little bothersome to me, and whether it's my sister or my roommate I don't care to have anyone lurking around my room at one in the morning when I'm trying to sleep and have to wake up early the next day. I've talked to her before and all she says is "I didn't feel good" but this is happening too often for me! and I know it's just habit because she always has been a night owl, always takes a ridiculous amount of baths in one day, and even in my old apartment she would always be getting in the bathtub at 1 or 2 in the morning. Finally I told her that she cannot use my bath if I am in bed and asleep and all she said was "oh yes I can. If I don't feel good and ur asleep I don't care, I'm using ur bathtub". Im just really frustrated. She doesn't respect me and I don't know what to do, plus my other roommate is a little upset, and it's with me, not her. Because she thinks it's not fair that I allow my sister all these "special priveleges".
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tell her you are going to lock the door and only allow bathtime when you are home (but not sleepng). sounds like she has obsessive compulsive disorder and my need some help. if she balks at the new rule, tell her to find a new place. who's name is on the lease?
tell the other roomie the whole situation and that you want to resolve it but are at a loss since "sis" has made her intentions clear. might bring the roomie into better understanding so she does not blame you for the problem.
it sounds like your sister has no respect for your requests. There are three courses of action that you can take:
1) Make it very, VERY clear to your sister that you will no longer tolerate her invading your personal space at all hours of the night. Remind her that your are paying extra money for that room. It would be best if there were some sort of consequence that you could implement on her if she fails to copmply with your request.
2) Give HER the master bedroom. After all, she seems to be using it the bathtub quite alot, possibly even more than you do. Also, i'm sure she'd let you use the tub, since you let her use it whenever she wants. You would be paying less, and your sister would get to use the tub whenever she pleases.
if neither of these options seem feasable,
3) you may just have to accept that your sister will never cease to use your bathtub. Also allow your roommate to use the bath whenever she pleases, as it is not fair to her if you only allow your sister to use it. Perhaps you could suggest that you all split that 50$ since you are all using it!
good luck!
I'm inclined to think your sister needs to find another place to live.
You might consider switching rooms, so she can bathe at will.
Or put a lock on the door, which would force her to ask.
Do make sure the roomie knows that you aren't granting her special anything -- she's going against your rules and you'd like to hold her underwater in her bath for it. Make sure the room knows you appreciate her being a civilized human being about it.
It would be perfectly reasonable for you to revoke the sister's bathing preveleges completely, as she's violated the terms and refuses to stop.
"The agreement was that you could use MY bathroom, which I pay extra for, under conditions. Since I can't go on being awakened by you every night, I hereby revoke my invitation for YOU to use MY bathroom."
Let the roomie use it, as before, as she HASN'T violated the terms.
That, trade rooms, or get sister to find another place to live. Those are the only options I see.
Your problem has gone out of control like your sister assuming what is hers is hers not anyone elses. You need to put your foot down and start giving consequences meaning you'll have to start locking your door which you don't want to cause you'll feel guilt but who's on the lease agreement. If she don't like it than she must move out and be responsible. This is what I am reading that you're allowing her to walk all over you. You stated she was in a previous living arrangement with you. How old is your sister? If she's 18 and over let her go live with others. This is serious and I know it will get worse. Your not her parent but you're an authority individual with rules of this place. I would suggest giving her options and if she doesn't follow than she must move. I know it will be hard for you but if nothing else can be done than your stuck with this situation.
Time to make new rules.
One bath a day, with permission as previously stated. This will take care of the late night baths as she won't want to wake you to ask (and if she does you can simply say no I'm sleeping).
If the rules aren't abided by, I would simply put a lock on my door and lock it when I'm not there or don't want to be disturbed. You can pick up a locking door knob at any hardware store and they come with keys. Simple.
well..it sounds like your sister likes/NEEDS baths more than you care about them
is it possible to giver her your room,and make her pay the extra 50$??
too bad yas coulsdnt find an apt that had a bathroom with a bathtub in a common area
but if your sister doesnt'' respect you'' theres more to this than a bathtub complaint and maybe you guys shouldnt be living together
it's almost impossible to live with someone who doesnt respect you
best wishes!!
Change rules. No bathing in your bathroom, lock your room door.